Finding Happiness, Freedom, and the Life You've Always Wanted
Press Release
HEADLINE:The Best Part of Life Begins After Fifty:HEADLINE
SUBHEAD:New AMACOM Book Shows How to Create a Fulfilling, Passionate and
Meaningful Life After Retirement:SUBHEAD
Retirement used to be a word with a somewhat negative connotation. Oh
sure, people said they looked forward to retiring, and others would say
how envious they were of the recent retirees. But the underlying feeling
was that retirement was the end of something: the end of your career and
the end of your productive life. It was time to walk off into the
sunset, play golf, putter around in the garden, and baby-sit the
grandchildren.
Well, that concept of retirement has fallen by the wayside. THE JOY
OF RETIREMENT: Finding Happiness, Freedom, and the Life You've Always
Wanted (AMACOM 2008) by David C. Borchard with Patricia A. Donohoe,
reshapes how people look at retirement and helps them to reinvent their
lives.
In the first half of our lives, we focus on being what others want us to
be or what our profession requires. As we get older (and wiser) however,
we stop being so concerned about how others see us and are more
interested in becoming our "Natural Selves.? Author David Borchard, a
professional counselor with 30 years experience working with adults to
identify their passions and develop a vision for the next phase of their
lives, has designed a step-by-step, structured approach for people who
are in transition and are unsure about how to proceed.
THE JOY OF RETIREMENT offers useful tools for self-assessment,
including such tests as:
• Life Vitality Assessment Test (page 4)
• Ultimate Questions at Fifty-Plus (page 51)
• Life Themes Profiler (page 65)
• Assessing Your Criteria for Personal Success (page 132)
• Assessing Your Strengths (page 152)
Written for recent retirees or those thinking of retiring, the book
provides advice on relationship management and tips for regenerating
relationships; clarifying location priorities if you plan to relocate;
assessing your psychological age; reassessing old work behaviors in
your new life; and managing stresses associated with this life change
and transition.
Whether you are planning on continuing to work during your senior years
or to transition into a more traditional, leisure-oriented lifestyle,
this book is written for those looking to take full advantage of the new
freedom, the self-liberation, and the joy of graduating into senior
status that life in 50+ year's offers.
About the Authors:
David C. Borchard is a professional counselor with 30 years of
experience in helping adults identify their passions and develop a
vision for the next phase of their lives. He specializes in career
management coaching and life/work transition counseling and has helped
thousands of adults regenerate their careers. He is creator of an
Internet accessible career assessment process for adults, The Passion
Revealer & The Skills Profiler (http://passion.career-nsite.com), and
has taught graduate level career development courses at The Johns
Hopkins University. Since 1992, he has been a writer, presenter, and
career consultant. He lives in Albuquerque, New Mexico.
Patricia A. Donohoe is a writer, an artist, and an ordained
Presbyterian minister (PCUSA). Her experience includes teaching English
and working as an alumni magazine editor, a public relations manager,
and an associate pastor.
Both David and Patricia live in Shepherdstown, West Virginia.
Back to Top
Excerpt
CHAPTER 1
Reinventing Your Life at Fifty-Plus
"I knew who I was during my career in this organization, but I have no
idea of who I'm going to be when I leave here.?
—A 55-YEAR-OLD MALE EXECUTIVE PREPARING FOR RETIREMENT
"I've worked hard for the past 27 years doing the company's work, and
now I am desperate to discover what I really want to do in the next
chapter of my life.?
—A 53-YEAR-OLD FEMALE PROFESSIONAL PREPARING FOR RETIREMENT
"Retirement for me has been the gateway to freedom.?
—A 65-YEAR-OLD RECENTLY RETIRED EXECUTIVE
Rejuvenation
If you're in the fifty-plus years, retirement no doubt has been on your
mind, unless you've already made the transition to life beyond full-time
employment. As I write this, I am 70 years old—chronologically, that is.
I'd put my functional age at fifty-something, and I dislike the word
retirement.
Have you ever checked out the definition of retirement? My dictionary
defines it as "to withdraw oneself from business, active service or
public life; to disappear, to take out of circulation; withdrawn or
secluded; difficult to be seen, known, or discovered.? With that
definition, why would anyone ever want to be retired?
I don't want or intend to work full-time for any one organization ever
again. But I do want more balance and diversity in my life than was
possible when I was fully employed. That sentiment is one I often hear
echoed from the hundreds of retirement-bound clients I have worked with
over the years. How about you? Where do you stand on the question of how
you want to be spending your time in the next chapter of your life?
As a freelance professional counselor and career management coach, I
work with individuals transitioning to pension-supported lifestyles. The
great majority of these folks are far more interested in life and work
change than traditional retirement. My clients seldom mention the topic
of retirement. Instead, they think about how to rejuvenate their lives
by recreating, reinventing or redesigning the way they live. Retirement
has a passive connotation. It sounds like something that happens to you
because you have gotten old—through no particular fault of your own.
Life recreation, by contrast, suggests a self-initiated action—one that
originates from free will and intentionality rather than from an imposed
condition. Maybe it's time to retire the word retirement in favor of a
more positive term. I invite you to coin a new term for your exciting
new chapter in life!
Exciting? Yes! But not without some work. The big challenge facing most
of us in our fifty-plus years is how to recreate a fulfilling and
meaningful life appropriate to who we are now, taking advantage of the
life, work, and learning possibilities now available. There are at least
three compelling reasons to pay attention to your new challenge:
1. At this life juncture, you may now have the opportunity for greater
freedom by way of a pension-supported lifestyle.
2. Never before have you been this old, which also means you have less
time remaining in this earthbound experience. This sobering reality
makes the time we do have a valuable commodity, a potentially rich but
limited resource.
3. At this point in our lives, we have more life-enriched experience,
along with deeper self-knowledge from which to make more fulfilling life
choices than we did in our younger years. This hard-won wisdom provides
a reference from which to discern what is going to make us richer or
poorer in body, mind, and spirit.
The process of life reinventing often begins around fifty-plus, when we
find ourselves mulling over questions about life meaning, personal
identity, and our core values. Here are some of the kinds of questions
that typically arise in this self-questioning process (check any of
these that resonate with you):
* What will I do when I am no longer committed to the structure of
full-time work?
* Who am I now, and who am I becoming?
* What is it time to leave behind?
* What do I call myself when I no longer have a job title or
organizational affiliation?
* What do I care deeply about?
* Where would I/we want to live if I/we could live anywhere?
* How much time do I have remaining in this lifetime?
* Why am I here?
* Will I become an old couch potato when I don't have to go to work?
* How will I know if I'm being successful when I am no longer being
evaluated by my performance at work?
* Are my best days behind me?
* So, what's next?
We shall address these issues in depth in later chapters. For now,
let's just acknowledge the reality of our aging selves. At fifty-plus,
we have entered the ranks of what traditionally has been thought of as
elderhood or seniordom. As we enter a new life era, it's time to let go
of that which no longer serves us well or that which we can no longer
sustain for some reason. This includes youthful vigor, self-esteem based
on career success, or beauty based on unlined faces. At fifty-plus, it's
time to fit into the skin of fully matured adulthood and create new
reasons for being and thinking about ourselves. It also may be time to
develop underutilized talents and interests, and possibly even engage in
some new kinds of work, paid or unpaid.
Change, Rejuvenate, or Hang On
Are you in a quandary of whether the time has come for a change in life,
a change in yourself, or an unchanging hold on what you have? You may
not want to jump prematurely into an uncertain path, but you also may
not want to stay stuck in a current rut simply because you fear change.
If you have reached a plateau in your current situation and are running
on the low side of motivation, you are probably facing the choice of
whether to get rejuvenated through a big life-changing leap or to
undertake a few small adjustments here and there. Big life leaps might
include choices such as retiring from work, getting a divorce, taking on
an entrepreneurial venture, moving to a totally new culture, or
undertaking a major career shift. Smaller, life-rejuvenating adjustments
might include engaging in some new interests like joining a meditation
group, volunteering as a Big Brother or Sister, leading a Boy or Girl
Scout troop, joining a church choir, initiating a new project at work,
starting a new assignment within your organization, or enrolling in
courses of personal interest at the local community college.
Of course, no one ever knows for sure what outcome will result from a
decision to go forward with a major life change, and only you can
determine whether you are prepared to take that leap. The following Life
Vitality Assessment can help you determine whether the time has come to
undertake a major transition, to make some small alterations in your
life, or to remain a while longer in your current situation.
Life Vitality Assessment
Use the following rating scale to assess your current attitude in
response to each of the 20 statements below. Record the number that best
describes your response to each statement in the left-hand spaces. When
you have recorded your response to all 20 items, tally the sum of all
responses in the box provided.
Your Describes me Occasionally I never feel
rating perfectly I feel this way this way
scores I_____I_____I_____I_____I_____I_____I_____I_____I_____I
10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1
1. I would be completely content if my life were to continue pretty
much as is over the next 10 years or more.
2. I have a rewarding work life and enjoyable leisure activities.
3. I would continue with my work and life exactly as it is even if I
suddenly came into great wealth.
4. I continue to have as much or more energy and enthusiasm for my
work and/or life situation as I have always had.
5. I never experience boredom or self-doubts about what I'm doing in
my daily activities.
6. I feel personally empowered and am a creative force in continuing
to make my life and work rich and rewarding.
7. I seem to be running on a full tank of energy and vitality pretty
much all the time.
8. I am definitely not ready for retirement because there is much I
still want to do professionally.
9. My love life is at least as full, rich, and rewarding now and for
the foreseeable future as it has ever been.
10. I have a clear sense of what my core values are and believe they
are fully congruent with my current life situation.
11. If I lost my work situation tomorrow for any reason, I am
confident I could move onto an excellent new situation in short order.
12. I feel great about who I am and am taking excellent care of myself
physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually.
13. I find my current life situation highly challenging and feel good
about what I'm learning and how I'm growing.
14. Those individuals who know me beyond casual acquaintance hold me
in high esteem.
15. I am optimistic that I can continue on pretty much as I am now and
for the foreseeable future.
16. I have a great family life and enjoy rich relationships with good
friends and associates.
17. I am happy where I/we live and have hobbies and interests outside
of work that enrich my life.
18. I am clear about my criteria for personal success and am on the
right track with my life and work.
19. I believe that my current life and/or work situation enables me to
contribute and develop my full potential.
20. My current life and work situation fully uses my best talents and
top interests.
Record your total score from all 20 responses: ______
Interpreting Your Assessment Results
If your score falls
within this range: It suggests that:
175 or above Your high score suggests you are comfortable with who
Fully Vitalized you are and energized by the life you are currently
living.
Whatever you are doing seems to be working well for
you, so keep it up. If you need to make some changes
for any reason, do so carefully. You will either want to
make small adjustments or recreate a similar type
of situation.
150-175 You seem to be sustaining a fairly positive attitude and
Sustained Energy energy level in the quality and meaning of your work and
life. A question to consider is whether your energy level
is generally on an upswing, a downswing, or at a fairly
even keel. You will probably want to sustain most of the
activities and associations that bring out your best. It may
be time, however, for some new dimension in your life,
work, learning, or leisure that could boost your energy
score above the 175 mark.
100-150 Your score suggests that you have just enough vitality to
Half Empty see you through the week—but very little in reserve.
Your life and work are lacking full-bodied vitality. It may
be important to make changes in some aspect of your
life, such as your work, physical condition, mindset,
hobby, or relationships. Make an investment of some
time and effort to refill your life-vitality tank.
Less than 100 Your score suggests the need for change. The closer
Taking Stock your score comes to the zero mark, the more urgent
the need. Find ways to get your battery recharged.
Determine what you need to do, what you want to
change, what you need to let go of, and what you need
to bring forth or revisit to get revitalized. This book
should be a valuable resource in helping to determine
your real potential, reenergize your outlook and refill
your life-energy tank.
Back to Top
