Tips for Reaching Across the Aisle (or Silo)
Jan 24, 2019
By Carol Kinsey Goman, PhD
After every election, politicians say the same thing: “Now we have to reach across the aisle to work together for good of the American people.”
And I hear similar proclamations about working together for the good of all from my corporate clients who are looking to break down the “silo mentality” of their companies.
Sounds simple, but we know it isn't.
Here are four strategies to consider when your goal is to build collaboration in any organization:
So it's obvious that collaboration efforts are more successful when we expand our view of “ingroup” to be more inclusive of formerly “outgroup” members by consciously looking for commonalities, instead of fixating on differences.
I tell my corporate audiences that we are in a world of multiple right answers: “There's more than one right way to deliver babies, pizza, or a joke.” So, although we are invested in our own opinions, it’s helpful to realize that one of us doesn't have to be wrong for the other to be right.
A new study at the University of Freiburg, Germany (and featured in Scientific American) suggests that acute stress may actually lead to greater cooperative, social, and friendly behavior, even in men. This more positive and social response could help explain the human connection that happens during times of crises. Researchers believe that this collaborative connection may be responsible, at least in part, for our collective survival as a species.
- Recognize your ingroup/outgroup biases
It's a well-known principle in social psychology that people define themselves in terms of social groupings: Any group that people feel part of is an “ingroup” and any group that excludes them is an “outgroup.” We think differently about members in different groups and behave differently toward them. Similarities make us feel comfortable. We assume we know what ingroup people are like—they’re good people, like us! However, we're not so sure about “them.” When we see people as part of an outgroup (and most especially if we are also prejudiced against that group), we are more likely to judge any negative act as typical of their character and to attribute any positive actions as “the exceptional case.”
- Confront your confirmation bias
Confirmation bias is a type of selective thinking in which we tend to look for and notice that which confirms our beliefs and positions, and to ignore or undervalue the relevance of anything that is contradictory to our beliefs. That's why, once we've decided that we have found the “right answer” or know the “right way” to do something, it is so difficult to consider the value of other people's opinions to the contrary.
- Make crisis work for you
No one wants to deal with a crisis, but new research shows why the stress of combating a crisis may increase collaboration. The classic view is that, under stress, men respond with “fight or flight,” that is, they either become aggressive or leave the scene, whereas women are more prone to “tend and befriend."
- Pay attention to where you pay attention
Neuroplasticity has replaced the formerly-held position that the brain is a physiologically static organ, and explores how the brain changes throughout life. One finding is that the act of paying attention creates chemical and physical changes and is continually reshaping brain patterns. Concentrating attention on a thought, an insight, a hope, or a fear will, over time, keep the relevant circuitry open and dynamically alive. With enough focus, new circuits become stable, physical links in the brain’s structure.
This is why all of us—at any age and for any reason —can choose to change our minds and our behavior.
To me, that's encouraging!
About the Author(s)
Carol Kinsey Goman, PhD is an executive coach, leadership consultant, and international keynote speaker at corporate, government, and association events. She is the author of The Nonverbal Advantage: Secrets and Science of Body Language at Work, The Silent Language of Leaders: How Body Language Can Help—or Hurt How You Lead, and most recently, The Truth About Lies in the Workplace: How to Spot Liars and What to Do About Them. For more information, contact CGoman@CKG.com or visit: http://www.ckg.com/