Stress Less. Achieve More.

Overview

The standard recommendations are to exercise, meditate, eat better. But who has time for yoga poses amid nonstop meetings and pressing deadlines? Stress reduction becomes one more thing to do!

Executive coach and psychotherapist Aimee Bernstein offers a more effective and realistic approach: embrace the pressure. See it as an energy source. Tap into its flow to accomplish more while feeling calm and centered. It's a counterintuitive message that frenzied professionals can actually use.

Stress Less. Achieve More. delivers relief for the overwhelmed. Part training manual, part spiritual guide, the book uncovers a total mental/physical/emotional formula to:

Stop reacting defensively • Retrain natural responses to stress triggers • Resolve conflicts harmoniously • Energize fatigued teammates • Relax in difficult situations

In today's overbooked world, pressure is almost impossible to avoid. But with the tips, techniques, and exercises in Stress Less. Achieve More., you can turn it into your ally—and thrive under even the most demanding circumstances.

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A reality of everyday life, pressure can't realistically be eliminated altogether. But the good news is that you can succeed under all kinds of pressure—if you develop the skills and mindset to handle it better, and even to turn it into an ally.

Stress Less. Achieve More. is your guide to higher performance in every facet of your work and life. This book will fundamentally change the way you perceive and react to stressful circumstances, from sudden events to ongoing situations. You'll learn about your own physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual responses to stress and how to develop a new, more constructive relationship with pressure. Author Aimee Bernstein reveals how to:

• Stop reacting defensively—and take back your power

• Deal with demanding bosses and co-workers without getting down

• Control your temper and stay calm—even if you're surrounded by triggers

• Create reasonable boundaries that give you more control of your time and energy

• Resolve conflicts among others, and help your team de-stress

Stress Less. Achieve More. equips you with timeless mind-body practices to keep you grounded and centered, and to increase your energy to accept opportunities, embrace the challenges that come with them, and do outstanding things!

Aimee Bernstein is President of Open Mind Adventures, a Southeast Florida—based coaching, consulting, and training company whose clients have included Dolce & Gabbana, The Ritz-Carlton Hotel Company, and The Port of Singapore Authority. She is also a licensed psychotherapist with 35 years of experience helping clients integrate the mind, body, and spirit toward more empowerment, success, and fulfillment in both business and everyday life.

Visit her at: stresslessachievemore.com

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Excerpt

The next message you need is always right where you are.

—Ram Dass, American spiritual leader and author

It's Humanitarian Day at the United Nations. As the seats in the General Assembly fill up, the excitement is palpable. Onto the stage steps Beyonc?, dressed in an elegant long white sequined dress. With the symbol of the United Nations behind her, she stops center stage and waits for the music to begin. The pressure must be enormous, yet she is so centered and upright, she doesn't display it. She begins to sing "I Was Here,? a song that encourages people to use their lives for the common good. Behind her, a video shows people from around the world. For a moment her hand rests on her heart. The camera immediately pans to members of the audience, who are clearly touched by her presence and words.

The music builds; her energy intensifies, embracing the far reaches of the hall. Her arm naturally rises to align with her center and then sweeps across her body in a semicircle. Behind her, a video of rescue efforts plays; the emotion builds, then the audience rises. Beyonc? arches her back, lifting her arms, chest, and head as if empowered by a force from above. She bends her knees, and as she straightens, I can see that she is deeply grounded. Her voice becomes more compelling as her body movements emphasize her words. When she is done, she stands erect, fully present and quiet, seemingly undisturbed by the magnitude of energy that has just pulsated through her. I watch this video countless times, each time spotting the clues to how she befriends pressure, which might otherwise create stress, and I know that I have witnessed a master.

Although few of us achieve such proficiency, life provides us with clues to teach us how to use pressure by pointing the way to an ideal state in which our mind/body/energy system is open and aligned with the larger energy field that nurtures and sustains us. No one, even scientists, knows exactly what energy is; however, for our purposes I define it as an electromagnetic vibration that composes and connects all life by transmitting information. We can't always perceive energy, but it is always there, and when the personal and universal energy fields unite, the feeling is extraordinary—inspiring, empowering, confidence-building, and peaceful. In these moments the energy that was pressing on us becomes the fuel that uplifts, making us feel as big as the challenges we face. As our decisions and actions reflect our inner state, we lead and function more effectively and effortlessly. Not only do we cognitively understand the essence of leadership, we embody it.

To live more consistently in this ideal state, and lead a "stress less? life, we need to identify and sense/feel the clues and the changes we need to make. That's what this book is about. Much of the time, however, we are so engrossed in our life dramas—I was promoted; my boss micromanages me; I didn't get the account—that we fail to ask the bigger questions and thus miss the clues. Yet, if you step back and review your experiences with the detached eye of a researcher, you would notice certain energetic habits—repetitive tendencies—that run through your stories. These repetitive tendencies are the ways you typically interact with energy. For example, you may discover that your fear of being swallowed up by your team's expectations really results from a frequent lack of energy coming from you (outflow), which limits your ability to participate and express yourself fully. Similarly, your frustration with your boss's autocratic style might stem from an inability to stand rooted in your own power (as Beyonc? did). If you could, you would not feel victimized by the boss's need to control.

Energetic habits underline and inform all of our perceptual, emotional, and behavioral patterns. Change these habits and it is easier and faster to break free from limiting self-definitions, emotional reactions, and behaviors. Similarly, by paying attention to when you are high performing, confident, and happy, you will begin to spot the energetic habits that align you with the larger energy field. Noticing what works provides a process that transforms pressure from an enemy into an ally and makes what is extraordinary seem ordinary.

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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xiii

Introduction: Make Friends with Pressure: Following the Clues 1

1. Run Deeper, Not Faster: Understanding Pressure from a New Perspective 9

2. Don't Believe Everything You Think: Moving Beyond the Limitations of Your Personality Type 31

3. You Can't Get There from Not Here: Where Is Your Attention? 55

4. Function from Your Center: Preserving Your Integrity Under Pressure 75

5. When Things Are Bad, Envision Your Best: Extending Your Energy for High Performance and Creativity 95

6. Size Matters: Becoming as Big as the Job 117

7. Gain Control by Giving It Up: Resolving Conflicts Harmoniously 137

8. Nobody Does It Alone: Taking Your Heart to Work 163

9. Spark Creative Solutions in High-Pressure Situations: Listening Is More Than Hearing 189

Conclusion: You Reach Your Destiny in Spite of Yourself 215

Resources 225

Notes 229

Index 233

About the Author 241

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